When Stories Clash: Addressing Conflict with Narrative Mediation
©2013 Taos Institute Publications
ISBN: 978-1-938552-01-4
Gerald Monk and John Winslade have written a series of books and articles on narrative conflict resolution. This one is intended to give practitioners an accessible window into the skills of narrative practice. In the stories that people tell about conflict, the relationship narrative is commonly shaped to fit the conflict story. But there are always other relationship stories that can be told. This book shows how to find and grow a counter story to the conflict story and to help people make choices about which story they want to perform. Inviting people to shift from a fraught relationship story to one that is more just, peaceful or cooperative is at the heart of narrative mediation. As you might expect, this is a book of engaging stories as well as robust concepts. It shows, it instructs, and it guides. Designed to be able to be read in one sitting, it is, in the end, a book that begs to be used.
Reviews
This work brilliantly and briefly illuminates the essentials of one of the most significant movements in mediation of the era. Inspiring reading not only for those engaged in mediation, but for all concerned with the challenges of human conflict. Bravo! — Kenneth Gergen, Ph.D. & Mary Gergen, Ph.D.,
Swarthmore College, Penn State University, Brandywine
This Book might seem small. But it is great! It is so useful in practice – filled with many illustrative examples. It is based on the basic concepts and practices from Michael Whites “Narrative Therapy” and on Michel Foucaults revolutionary poststructuralist philosophy. The authors put it this way: “We assume that people give coherence to their lives and relationships by developing stories about them. Conflicts between individuals or groups are impacted by the wider social forces that give shape to the stories by which we live.” And this point of departure: “…directs us to understand how each person’s responses are produced out of the forces at work between people. These forces include the ways in which people seek to influence (or succeed in influencing) each other or the ways in which attempts to influence each other break down into conflict. Any relation of mutual influence is in this sense a power relation.” The book represents a beautiful example of using poststructuralist ideas in practical mediation. It is highly recommended. — Allan Holmgren, director DISPUK, adjunct professor at Copenhagen Business School, Denmark
Having founded the field of narrative mediation, Monk and Winslade use this book to increase our collective understanding of counterstories and their role in transforming conflicts. Their genius lies not only in their framework for describing narrative dynamics in a mediation process, but also in making this practice accessible, and fascinating. They describe and exemplify how we can engage stories in a way that support their evolution, and free people from the constraints of their stories. In this way, they also contribute to the evolution of mediation itself. — Sara Cobb, Ph.D., Professor, School for Conflict Analysis and Resolution and Director, The Center for the Study of Narrative and Conflict Resolution, George Mason University